Micro aggressions…

This poem is very personal- I have come across a number of posts asking for advice on micro aggressions from men in one of the professional groups of women to which I belong. We are highly trained women professionals trying to thrive in a male-dominated profession, and this is the reality most of us have faced at some point or the other.

I shake off the remark, the subtle insinuation

The display of feigned solidarity for my situation

I shrug off the insult cleverly disguised

Reinforce my thicker skin, as advised

By well-wishers, mentors, managers, administrators

To keep my sanity in a world that caters

To the ego of men in power everywhere

I cannot complain about treatment unfair

I am sensitive to constructive criticism

I have to blur my lens of feminism

This is what they tell me- it’s all in my head

I should focus on being more pleasant instead

I should not voice what I think I need

I should feel fortunate to be in my shoes indeed


I am jaded listening to this constant refrain

I have learnt to ignore that nagging pain

I allow some tears in my office behind a closed door

Quickly regain composure, though wounded to the core

I can do this, strength within myself I shall find

I tell myself, as I channel my focused mind

Into producing high quality work yet again

This is how my heart and mind I train

The only tool I have is my fortitude

That will determine my altitude..

Published by iheart11

A 30-something year old woman, physician by profession, fiercely passionate about work, family, travel and fashion..

One thought on “Micro aggressions…

  1. ‘I shake off the remark’–you are a stronger person than I. This was the passive-aggressive behavior we had at work. My coworkers and I wound up bitching about it together just to get it out of our systems. Toxic environment at its finest…


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