
You love your children, you don’t want to deny
Anything they desire, you have the means, so why
Should you not fulfill every demand of theirs
They must know they are loved, their parents care
For their well-being, for their happiness
You want the moon and stars for them, no less
You explain that their demands are not unreasonable
You rationalize their wants as needs whenever you are able
You are selfless parents, willing to give up at once
Your own needs to satisfy the wants of your little ones
**
Your child is now an adult, fully grown
Who needs to navigate the world on his own
Unfortunately he has grown up without having learnt
That “no” is a complete answer, he has now been burnt
By facing rejection for the first time that he can recall
He feels devastated, not knowing this is universal after all
Most people you meet are not going to do what you say
No one in this world, all the time, gets his way..
You try to explain to him that this is the way
The world works, but he fees despondent anyway
**
You look back at your parenting style and wonder
If fulfilling every demand of your child was a blunder
Sooner or later each one of us has to hear a “No”
For an answer, we just have to forego
That person, or thing, or opportunity
Understanding this is a key to being happy
To say no sometimes as parents is important to learn
The temporary disappointment may pay off in the long run..
Love love love this one! It’s so uncomfortable, for them and us alike, to say no. And that is our job, to model how to tolerate, even embrace the inevitable discomforts and pain in life—to accept this and learn how to suffer the least from it all. Pain is a given; suffering can be a choice. 😊
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Thank you for your kind comment. I feel very strongly that not teaching kids to face disappointment is a disservice to them.
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